Be a Friend
If you saw a car headed straight toward your friend, would you warn them to get out of the way? Of course you would; that's a no brainer. Yet, when it comes to telling that same friend that you're worried about the person they're involved with, you start feeling all weird and awkward.
Problem is, you're probably seeing that relationship a lot clearer than your friend is, and if you sense danger you owe it to them to tell them. Not only could your support save your friend from heartbreak, it could save them from a whole lot worse. How do you bring the subject up? The answer—very gently, but here are some things to keep in mind when you do.
- Be willing to listen and hear what they have to say
- Be honest, natural and let them know why you're concerned. Give specific examples.
- Recognize their right to make their own decisions
- Offer to help them get more information if necessary
- Let them know you're always willing to talk
- Suggest an adult they could also talk to - a counselor, teacher or another adult they trust
- Stay focused on your friend and how the relationship affects him/her both emotionally and physically
- Be judgmental
- Make them feel stupid or ashamed
- Tell them what to do
- Become emotional and cut the conversation short
- Attach or insult the abuser. Remember, your friend cares about this person.
Email a friend and let them know that you are there for them.